I knew when I got pregnant with the twins that bed rest might become a reality. I preferred to stick my hand in the sand and pretend I could be uber-tough like my friend, Kathy, and not need to be on bed rest. This didn't happen because my cervix thinned out and we needed those babies to stay in and cook!
I felt incredibly guilty that I wasn't able to play with Hayden as much as he or I wanted. I had to learn to work laying down and a shower became a five minute mini vacation. It was NOT easy on Hayden, Chip or me. I did learn one very valuable lesson through it all though... I learned to be on the receiving end of help.
I am the first one to want to help others and find that it blesses me tenfold to do so. Being on the receiving end? NOT so easy! I had to rely on our neighbors, who are Hayden's adopted uncles, to help take Hayden to school and back when Chip had meetings. They brought food, company and sanity. These two guys, Steve & Rob, well, they deserve a post all their own. We adore them and could never thank them enough! Rob's family has invited us into their home, brought us food, celebrated with us, prayed for us and has been a true Godsend.
I had several friends who came and brought me lunch, magazines, Sonic drinks and kept me sane. Mary Ann, Chasity and Adrianne are so sweet. When you're stuck looking at the walls in your living room and you can't cook, clean, nest, have watched every show on your DVR and read until yours eyes are sore - it's a welcome sight to have someone bring you your favorite sandwich or drink! If you know someone on bed rest, just giving them 15 minutes of your time and spending a dollar on their favorite drink will bring them much needed sanity and joy! TRUST ME ON THIS!!
As any pregnant woman can attest, you have the urge to NEST and being on bed rest does not allow for this. Praise the Lord for the aforementioned Kathy! This girl drove all the way from Houston, dropped her own sweet twins off at her parents in DFW, stopped by Costco for a trunk full of frozen dinners to stock our freezer with and came to save the day! She stayed for several days and helped make the twins room a bright & cheery place. Hayden is IN LOVE with her, so he was super excited to have "his Kappy" all to himself for a few days. We go to catch up, hang out and I felt so much more normal just by having her around to make me laugh and give me much needed twin advice.
Besides super friends, our family just plain rocks (and yes, I know just how lucky I am)! My in-laws and my parents, as well as Nicole (our super sweet cousin who lives too far away in Stillwater), helped too! They assisted in putting furniture together, spending quality time with Hayden, helping me organize (okay, doing the organizing while I watched) and were just above and beyond awesome!!
I just want to put it all out there that bed rest can make you feel like your going batty. If you are on bed rest, I want to give you hope! My friend, Ryan, sent me a how to crochet set (that I'm still working on figuring out how to do, maybe when the twins are 10 - ha) out of the blue. I had people Facebook me and message me words of encouragement. Just know that the end result is so worth it! Every day those babies are IN your belly is three less days of NICU time. Knowing that fact helped me "power through." Ask for friends to come to you. Most people want to help, they just don't know how! Allow them to bless you!!
If you know someone on bed rest, bring them magazines, a drink, talk with them about YOUR life. Give them a call or a quick text to tell them they're awesome. Stop by and do a quick load of laundry or bring them some food or groceries. If they have a child, take them for an hour or two to the park or play ball in the backyard. Every little thing helps and is appreciated more than you'll know.
To all of our sweet friends and family - you helped Dawson and Ansley grow and helped Hayden feel extra special. Thank you will never be enough... I hope the sincerity and gratitude I'm trying to convey through this post shines through!